OK so to carry on with the tale, I’m going to tell you about where we got married.
We wanted a wedding where we could get all our loved ones in one place, and spend as much time as we could all together. We looked at country house type venues, and barns with accommodation, but we were put off by the amount of hard work those weddings can be. So my mum somehow Derren Browned me into loving a particular hotel, with stunning views, Danish design (very important for us) and a cliff top location that even in a serious storm is both stunning and cosy at the same time.
We chose, of course, the Polurrian Bay Hotel in Mullion. The food, the booze, the organisation (it seemed very laid back but they were working like machines to get everything flowing seamlessly) and the location were just the stuff of dreams. I’ve never had an idea in my head of my ‘dream wedding’ at all, but what that hotel gave me was better than anything I could have thought of. The team including Clare, Sarah and Johann and of course the chefs in the kitchen are all awesome and I know every single one of the guests loved every minute of their stay. We had the whole place to ourselves for the weekend, with almost everyone arriving on the Friday evening (boozy partying until 3am? Ooops) and staying to wave us off on Sunday lunchtime. We walked the coast path, and down to the cove to see the waves, and it was all just so relaxing and special and intimate… and while that is a lot to do with our friends and family – the hotel staff were brilliant too.
- Trekking down a tiny cliff path for those cinematic shots of Alan’s and cutting my toe on a bramble, and having to wrap grass around my toe to keep blood off my dress…
- Glasses of fizz on the terrace when the deed was done and the party begun
- A delicious meal of crab and smoked salmon tian, followed by roast chicken with wild mushrooms, and then the epic cake…
- Our Cornish band, the Tinners, who ceilidh us up a good ‘un. I didn’t expect so many people to dance…
- My Dad’s face when I came down the stairs
- That lovely hour or so of my Mum pinning flowers in my hair
- Seeing my fiance at the end of the aisle waiting for me
- My nieces singing for us, and playing the guitar and being generally awesome
- My sister’s song for us which was very Danish and very much fun and beautifully written
- The speeches, both the planned and the unplanned…
The only thing I might have changed is to perhaps go away not immediately after the wedding. We left the next day at noon, but it felt too soon, and I wonder if we had trapped everyone there we could have extended the party for a couple more days..?! But we did go and had many adventures around Cambodia and Vietnam. But that is a story for next time.
PS. Our Reading: I can’t find the link any more! So here it is, reproduced for your reading pleasure. I didn’t write this and there are shorter versions all over the place, but this is the long one. It’s not really Apache but written by screenwriter Albert Maltz for the movie Broken Arrow in the 1940s apparently. It was read to us during the ceremony by my friend Emily who is frikken wonderful. Here is the reading, perfect for non-religious, atheist and humanist wedding ceremonies if you ask me.
An Apache Blessing
May the sun bring you new strength by day,
May the moon softly restore you by night,
May the rain wash away your fears,
And the breeze invigorate your being,
May you, all the days of your life together,
Walk gently through the world and know its beauty.
Treat yourselves and each other with respect,
and remind yourselves often of what brought you together.
Give the highest priority to the tenderness,
gentleness and kindness that your connection deserves.
When frustration, difficulties and fear assail your relationship,
as they threaten all relationships at one time or another,
remember to focus on what is right between you,
not only the part which seems wrong.
In this way, you can ride out the storms,
when clouds hide the face of the sun in your lives,
remembering that even if you lose sight of it for a moment,
the sun is still there.
And if each of you takes
responsibility for the quality of your life together,
it will be marked by abundance and delight.
Now you will feel no rain,
For each of you will be shelter for the other,
Now you will feel no cold,
For each of you will be warmth to the other,
Now there is no more loneliness,
For each of you will be company for the other,
Now you are two persons,
But there is only one life before you.
Go to your dwelling,
Enter into the days of your life together
And may your days be good and long upon the earth
PPS. I realise I have said more about the peoples and things that made the wedding, rather than the feelings and the emotions of the day, but that is because that stuff is hard to write down. Maybe for another time. x